I have done some of the craziest things in my life and one of them was photographic modeling in my mid 40's. (Some of the pictures taken from a fashion shoot.)
Did I have fun? Of course I did! My best friend was my photographer and I knew I could enjoy all my shoots and have a roaring time.
Do I think that was crazy at my age? Of course I do! But the experiences I’ve had have shaped me to become the woman I am today.
What woman is that? A woman who loves to give to other women, who wants to inspire other women and help them to become the best they can be with the knowledge and experience they have.
Why? Think of the world as a revolving room. Every mile the bus stops and someone jumps off to give out information. The information is always positive, full of substance, informative, builds your confidence and self-esteem.
Now you have to take the next mile and feed the person at the next stop. Can you imagine how amazing this world would be if we all had something positive to share. If we all said things about each other that were worthy of being said or heard. If each person smiled all day instead of frown or complain, what a world this would be.
So today I want to challenge you. I want you to pick 2 people on your friends list a day and tell each one something nice. Tell them what you appreciate or admire about them, how kind and caring they are or whatever it is you can tell them that is nice.
Remember the exercise is to become more positive and leave behind the banter and upsets in the world. Even the people you don’t like for whatever reason. Think of at least one good thing you can tell them.
If there is nothing good you can say about a person, then don’t say anything at all. And question. Why are they on your friend list if you cannot say something good about them?
Here is an example:
I have decided that everyday I am going to tell two of my friends on my list something I admire or appreciate about them and today you are one of the two.
You are a very talented designer and so patient. You are also very kind and I appreciate that you and your wife give food parcels to the less fortunate in your area.
May you continue to do good and be blessed!
Have an awesome day filled with love, joy and peace!!!
Go on, you can do it!
We love to show our successes and achievements as business owners, graduates or perhaps marathons we've completed.
I believe we were successful as young mothers rearing our toddlers and young children, young adults and now adults.
They have much to do with shaping us into the women we have become. So today I dedicate my blog to my children and grand children.
As I mentioned in my story behind my passion I was a single mother for many years, the reason for my passion to be successful was to be able to give my children what I did not have.
I was a stay home mother until my youngest daughter turned three. I then opened up my first boutique where she came to work with me each day until she started school at the age of four.
After school my 12 year old son and 15 year old daughter looked after her until I got home from work, whilst my 17 year old worked too.
I feel so blessed to have the children I have and know I can always count on them when I need them. They in turn know I am always here when they need me.
They are the reason for the season, they mean the world to me and I am forever grateful for them in my life.
Once I decided I was not going to visit a Doctor again, I was determined I was going to heal myself. How? I had absolutely no idea.
I learned about the Eight Natural Doctors taught by the SDA Church, which sounded almost too simple to be true, but as desperate as I was, I needed to find out more.
In December 2008, I spent two weeks in the company of an American Evangelist and his beautiful wife learning all about these Eight Natural Doctors. And that was the beginning of
A NEW START, which is the name of the book, I am sharing segments from.
You see the acronym NEW START stands for:
As I said, it was so simple it seemed crazy that the eight natural Dr's in this acronym could be so powerful.
Each day I looked at these 8 Dr's and incorporated them into my life, and by May 2009 my vision was fully restored. But I knew there was more I needed to do to improve my health, so I continued on this journey of healing and learning.
You too can improve your physical and mental health. Yes you have to make changes to your lifestyle.
Is it worth it? Absolutely!
I met my husband in December 2009 and he took me to study in America at the amazing health retreat "New Start", which was another life changing experience.
We have not touched alcohol since our wedding day. We exercise each day, live on a very healthy diet, have plenty of water and fresh air and we will never look back.
My usual routine was to wake up early and get into the gym by 6.00 am. An unusual morning I found myself on the floor of the gym groaning and shivering, yet covered in sweat, as I lay there alone wondering what might be my plight. I was rushed to hospital and they began to go over every detail of my medical history as they do and then my personal history, my family history, current symptoms, well-being and state of mind.
Then came the exam where they do the routine checks i.e. pulse, temperature, abdomen, heartbeat, B.P. and finally reflex response test. By this time, I was drained and crying with fear as the questions were going around in my head. Is my life over at 45? Have they found the problem? Is it cancer? How long do I have? What about my children?
All I wanted was answers. Through teary eyes I looked up at the Dr with hope who looked at me very seriously and said, “Ayolani, do you take drugs?”
I stared at him blankly, with no words. Tears just rolled off my cheeks. I couldn’t believe what I had just heard. Did he actually just ask me if I was a drug addict? I told him I was a health fanatic and drugs were the last things on my mind.
Taking drugs? Did I look like a drug addict? Here was a hard working single mother who was about to fly to the US the following day to meet up with a friend who had arranged a meeting for me with Michael Jordan’s designer, whilst I was going to showcase my latest range first in Arizona.
The symptoms that I faced over the next year as I was rushed in and out of hospitals were, sleeping close to 13 hours a night and waking up absolutely shattered, constant stomach bloating and cramping, joint pain, extreme weakness, extreme sinus headaches and infections, numbness and tingling, hair and nails so weak and brittle, they would split and break off from even just a simple touch. Worse still, I began to lose my eyesight.
I had to close down my successful boutique after working so hard to make a name for myself amongst the who’s who. Although a single mother with 4 children, I worked hard and managed to own my own home.
I was a Mother, a friend, an aunt, a sister and self-respecting 45-year-old women. I traveled to foreign countries each year for my fashion and ran some of the best fashion shows around. I had some good relationships and some bad ones, laughed and cried, learned from my mistakes, but always got back up.
I’ve never fallen into depression as many single mothers do, I’ve never had an eating disorder, I worked out everyday to stay fit and healthy, but can’t say I never took a drug in my life. I was now at my lowest and knew I had to make some big changes in my life if I wanted to see my children grow up, marry and have my grandchildren.
I was offered just about every drug within this year, and in desperation I took them until I realised my body was starting to fail me.
On my last visit to my Dr, I told him I was getting worse and asked him why he continued to give me drugs yet obviously could see there was no change, but worse still my symptoms were worsening. I told him I had done some research and all I could come up with was chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia, to which he said, “yeah you are right, it could so we will try…”
Enough trying I got up yelling, I am not a guinea pig and you are not get one more $ out of me.
I got home and searched all over the net for a natural DR and found one who I visited the next day. He asked me what I had been tested for which was MS, Lupus, Lyme Disease, hepatitis, rheumatoid arthritis, cancer, stroke amongst many others. All of which turned out to be negative. Not to mention the numerous MRI’s, CT scans, x-rays, nerve tests and so much blood taken that I was constantly wanting to pass out.
I sat in his office and cried and he told me DR’s just guess, as they really don’t know themselves. They learn physiology and anatomy and spend 30 minutes on nutrition throughout their time at med school.
He suggested I spend time doing my own research and I would do better and also save money. Thank you very much for the advice $45000 later and a year in and out of hospital and tests and made to feel like I was a drug addict of some kind.
Well, here I am after studying with a few different institutions, with the passion and drive to help you get the balance you need in your life.
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