I guarantee you if you create static and compartmentalisation inside your nature, you will never find your voice.
The attitude of
THESE ARE 5 FIVE EMOTIONAL CANCERS
Steven Covey calls them metastasising cancers…
1. Criticism – disapproving someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes: Try looking at people from a more approving and appreciative perspective. Try to see the positives in them and stop looking for the negatives.
You will probably surprise yourself at how different the people you may have previously judged actually are, based on the shift in your own attitude.
2. Comparing - estimate, measure, or note the similarity or dissimilarity between: There will always be a better person than yourself, smarter, more attractive, financially more secure, more educated. BUT so what?
Again, try to see a person for who they are, not for who the other person is. We don’t choose our partners based on the fact they are much more than the other one was, we don’t have a friend and think, I wish she could measure up to me, or my friend in Switzerland.
3. Complaining - expressing dissatisfaction or annoyance about almost everything, instead of just enjoying things for what they are. Why couldn’t you make me tea instead of coffee, be grateful that he went out of his way to make you anything.
We think the grass is greener on the other side, BUT NO - it is greener where you water it…
4. Competing - not for a sport or a marketplace, but for a sense of your own self worth. Think about that one and really try to see yourself for who you truly are… Others will if you are genuine. You don’t always have to be speaking up about your self. Let others shine in the conversation.
5. Contending – the spirit of contention – a mean spirited argumentative kind of contentious attitude. With which many of us oppose other’s opinions. Do you support other’s ideas or do you automatically by habit present an opposing possibility?
Well I am going to challenge you today to take a good look at yourself.
1. Criticise - yourself and work out how you can make a change in this attitude
2. Compare – yourself to others and work out why they have genuine friends
3. Complain – to yourself about how tired you are of being this person you are
4. Compete – with someone who has high values, morals and ethics…
5. Contend – with who you are and may you become the best you can be!
Rescript an example of a common negative thought process you have for each one of the above in your journal – with the person you most often have that with.
Put it into practice, the next time you see these ugly cancers showing up, shut them down before they metastasise.